An appeal to the members of this forum

(stalwartPortrait) #1

To start off , I have noticed that there are quite a few members of the forum who are rather frank and rude in their comments / replies to a thread which they disagree with . For example , I was reading through a thread today , where OP was complaining about shotguns being too powerful. His evidence seemed to be exaggerated , and most , if not all members disagreed. This lead to quite a few sarcastic remarks in the thread, some of them insulting and rude

I myself have experience being the object of ridicule , due to a suggestion i made ,which a ton of people disagreed with. The same thing happened , and many of the comments were scarcastic , rude , or downright insulting , to the point where the thread was closed by a moderator

Although we might disagree with a certain point , we have NO rights at all to insult / poke fun at the poster. Say , you disagree with gay marriage. Do you go out and insult gays ? I am sure that that is what not most people would do.

So here is my appeal. Please be nice and friendly towards all members of our forum , whether you agree / disagree , hate or love him/her

Thanks for reading and hope you understand :grin:

TL;DR , Please be polite

(PurpleNurple) #2

Don’t say stupid outlandish things and you won’t have a problem with people being condescending. I’d rather have people make fun of someone for saying something out of complete ignorance than every day a CoD warrior coming here asking for the game to be just like CoD. This new culture of everyone is a fragile being needs to stop. If you say something stupid own up to it and learn from your mistake. We’re not here to hold your hand.

(Yes) #3

I’m guessing you are talking about this thread. http://forums.dirtybomb.nexon.net/discussion/14716/okay-so-uh-you-know-shotguns

All the replies seem to me to just be friendly banter, nothing worth getting upset about and the only person getting hostile was the OP.

(stalwartPortrait) #4

Was just an example , I can name some other threads of needed

And I would guess that OP would not have been hostile of ghosthree3 had not made that comment

If you have nothing nice to say , dont say it

(Ghosthree3) #5

When someone makes a thread like that they’re literally asking for it, and I’m all to happy to provide. The OP posted information that wasn’t even in the same room as correct and he probably knew that and wanted to complain and have people agree with him.

And did you really try and liken your argument to gay rights to get people on your side? Holy shit dude, wow.

EDIT: This is pretty relevant too.

(Eox) #6

What happened on that thread is not what I could call insults. There were a lot of sarcastic comments, but we’re far from the massive bully rush I encountered on some websites were the community is downright toxic.

A very few people aside, the community here is more or less friendly (at least as long as you don’t talk about Phantom : it’s where some people may loose their poop). Besides that, that guy was exaggerating shotgun’s efficiency by a very large margin, a weapon type that is totally avoided in competitive due to a huge range issue, so I can understand the community’s grumble.

(Dirmagnos) #7

[quote=“stalwartPortrait;49859”]
If you have nothing nice to say , dont say it[/quote]

Ratehr funny, how you urself disregard your own advice by creating topic that shames people who are expressing their opinions differently/disagree.
Or maybe its one of those “theres 2 opinions, mine and wrong one”.

Its a public forum, so for as long as people stay withing certain boundaries, they can write whatever they wannt. And that writing about “be nice”, it never works.

(CC_FANG) #8

In a public forum with a large community, you will always have some people who are overly negative, and who have trouble expressing their opinions without throwing in insults or rude behavior. We have a lot of great players who are involved in our community and this game, many are avid gamers or just really like this particular game. When people feel strongly about something it can tend to come out in text, where we can’t always tell if they are being jokingly sarcastic, or using irony, for example. Often strong feelings can lead to expressing a perfectly fine opinion in a perfectly unacceptable manner.

My advice – if you’re angry, take a few minutes to chill out before you post. If someone has riled you up, be sure that you are expressing displeasure at their behavior/opinion rather than them, personally. Try and keep it generalized so it isn’t an attack on someone but rather speaking against the thing that you dislike.

If someone tears you up in a post, don’t reply to it. Report it. There is a lot of freedom of expression here but direct attacks on others are not acceptable. However, it’s tough to separate an unacceptable post or part of one if you have several people replying and/or quoting it. Resist the urge to fire back just to even the score, although feel free to express yourself appropriately! Difference of opinions and communication make for a strong community.

As mods, we certainly don’t want to make this place feel too strict, but there are definitely lines that can’t be crossed. If you aren’t sure if a post is inappropriate, just message us, we’ll do our best to help :slight_smile:

Thanks for reading yet another wall of text <3

(Leonine) #9

This is fine, in theory.

But it doesn’t seem to stop all the clowns demanding aimpunch be removed, every day, for example, with no clue of how the game would actually be without it. In that case, ignorance reigns. They could be right, they could be wrong, but they certainly aren’t informed.

It has nothing to do with lack of knowledge or even taste; it’s about the forum hivemind. The minority opinion, even if it happens to be correct, will always be shouted down on a forum like this.

Personally, I’d rather people actually make well-thought out posts without insults of any kind, but, well, the world isn’t perfect.

(watsyurdeal) #10

People need to understand how to justify their opinion. Arguments, thought out posts, simple stuff really.

If you can’t do that then prepare to get torn down, because that’s how debate and discussion works.

(Amerika) #11

As CC_Fang said, things will get tense sometimes. This is a competitive game and people will engage in conversations that people will feel passionate about it. I fully believe these conversations need to happen as it’s a good way to figure out viewpoints and strip away biases, clear out false information and get to the heart of a matter.

If you make a thread or a post please don’t take somebody questioning your viewpoint as a personal attack unless it’s actually a personal attack (then tell a mod). And make sure if you make a thread/post that expresses your viewpoint ensure that you are prepared to explain your viewpoint as it might need to be defended. Not everyone is going to agree no matter how logical it sounds to you. Also, be prepared to maybe change your viewpoint if new information comes to light. That is the heart of true debate and intelligent conversation and what makes a forum good. Just make sure you are not going out of your way to insult people is all that we ask. Direct insults are against the forum rules and action will be taken against you if that happens.

So if you have a problem with somebodies argument then be articulate, speak your mind from your point of view, make sure you try to understand theirs and don’t resort to an insult/flag/dislike war. It’s OK to get passionate and even a bit heated because that’s human nature and a sign that we care. But don’t go around insulting everyone who does not share your viewpoint.

(Yes) #12

This is fine, in theory.

But it doesn’t seem to stop all the clowns[/quote]
Clowns are people too. :frowning:

(Amerika) #13

Scary people.

http://www.mememaker.net/static/images/templates/757732.jpg

(Ghosthree3) #14

That movie weirded me out, seriously, it wasn’t scary it was just…weird.

(watsyurdeal) #15

Seriously Amerika fuck you, I tried so hard to forget D:

(Backuplight) #16

“Well, I was only hostile because…” still no reason to be a dick. It goes both ways.

Honestly, some people just need a thicker skin. Yes, sometimes people post things that are out of line, but generally those things get dealt with by moderators. The thread used to demonstrate people being rude just showcases the OP being completely out of line. People should post their thoughts and opinions if they like, but don’t expect everyone to just agree with you. Disagreeing doesn’t equate to a personal attack, and some people need to recognise that.

(Nail) #17

meh, helicopter parenting and bubble wrap children are turning people into mush, grow a pair, learn from your mistakes and move on

(Yes) #18

[quote=“Amerika;49901”]Scary people.

http://www.mememaker.net/static/images/templates/757732.jpg[/quote]

[spoiler]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMisSii8VJI[/spoiler]

(Nail) #19

lets lighten the mood

https://scontent-sea1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xft1/t31.0-8/s960x960/11722314_1009031162460970_554514689606681561_o.jpg

(Vexed) #20

I’m a negative person. I’ll own up to that - when I post in your thread, I probably disagree with you, at least a little. (Unless I’m going off topic and being daft.)

But that’s OK, I think, because what I’m not is abusive. If I think you’re wrong, I’ll tell you why, probably citing examples. I might throw in a little belligerent rhetoric, at times… which is probably wrong… but I always draw the line at actually directly insulting people. I might imply that I think you’re wildly ill-informed, have put next to no thought into your opinion and would have been better served by spending five minutes on google instead of creating a forum thread, but I’ll phrase it more constructively than “You’re an idiot because…”

Even if that’s what I was thinking.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that even if you’re powered by the dark side (let’s face it, the right side) you can still at least pretend to be made of rainbows and cherry-flavoured bubblegum. Or something. So whether we agree with OP or not, in this thread or in others, let’s put a little effort into explaining exactly why. Hey?